A paraphrase of Proverbs 15:1-3, based on information found here:
A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger. Express your knowledge prudently and gracefully. A gentle tongue brings life, but perverse speech wounds the spirit.
Every new power, whether mechanical or spiritual, requires adjustment before it can be used to the full... to perceive that there is much which we ought to do and not to know exactly what it is, nor how to do it, does not add to the pleasure of life or to ease in living. We become worried, restless, anxious; and in the transition stage between the development of this new power and the adjustment which comes with time and experience, the fuller life, which is certainly ours, fails to make us either happier or more useful.She is talking about a transition into better habits. She is revealing that tendency to indulge in restless action when we perceive that our previous efforts have been lacking. And she is encouraging us to exercise wise passiveness, to be gentle with ourselves (and our children!) as we change:
We ought to do so much for our children, and are able to do so much for them, that we begin to think everything rests with us and that we should never intermit for a moment our conscious action on the young minds and hearts about us... We may take heart. We have the qualities, and all that is wanted is adjustment; to this we must give our time and attention.She is really talking about the development of a new power in a human being, not the deliverance of God in the midst of circumstances. Not every transition in our lives is the result of us making a move toward better habits. I have been misapplying this idea!